I’m so bored of this game. I’m sure you know it: ‘I’m right and you’re wrong’. Most people have a preference to which end of the court they like to play.

Fact tennis can be a deeply appropriate game to play when we are problem-solving. In life, the skill is to know which court we are on. If we are on the fact court, thrash it out.

But if we are on the relationship court I believe most of us long to meet at the net.

• term totally nicked from Philippa Perry’s book ‘The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will be Glad That You Did’). If you are interested, my book review? 5 Stars.