On the front cover of a magazine, Philippa Perry (renown psychotherapist) was quoted as saying ‘the relationship you have with yourself is the most important one of all’.

I wish I had said that.

It is my firm belief that everything communicates and the way we communicate says an awful lot about the relationship we have with ourselves.

For example, we all know that being succinct is synonymous with effective communication but how many times do we catch ourselves and others over explaining? Is it in a bid to prove we know our stuff? Or to justify our actions? Or that we just want everyone to know we are the cleverest person? Or that we are right?

Conversely, how many times do we keep quiet? Is it because we don’t think we are smart enough or experienced enough to share a great idea? Or that we just don’t think we are enough?

And it’s not just what we say. Everything communicates. If we are repeatedly late for meetings, it suggests we believe we are more important than other people. If we often reschedule regular catch ups, same thing.

I also believe that if we want to be an inspiring, influential and successful leader, exceptional communication skills are required.

The moral of the story? Get to know (and like) yourself.